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Chapter 2 of “The Insider Story”
NEVER POSTPONE LIVING YOUR DREAMS
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The following are some realizations that I became aware of during the time that I lived with the thought of; "Oh God I'm dying." The first is
never to postpone living your dreams.
I realized that for my whole life I had always thought happiness and success were things I would get sometime in the future; some 10, 20, 30, years from now.
Inadvertently, I had postponed my happiness for the future.
The funny thing was that I had no future. I was devastated by this idea. But I did quickly try to salvage what I had by being happy every minute of every day. I made it a
point to realize that whatever I do, I must be happy now because none of us knows when his time is coming and his ticket is pulled.
The second realization to becoming successful is to be aware of negative people or "reality-stoppers."
If people try to tell you that you can't do something you want to do, and you know you only have three months to live, what are you going to do? Will you listen
to them and not do it or will you tell them that you don't care about their limited perspective? You must recognize these negative people in your life and quickly learn to move around them and get on with your goals and
objectives. Once you stop and confront any of these "reality stoppers," you will see they will disappear.
A "reality-stopper" is a person that is negative about anything in life. It is a very scary concept, but, if you look around, they are everywhere and seem to
make up at least half the population.
They are the people at work that "stink talk" anyone with a better idea. They are the people that are always complaining about anything new or different. They
dislike any sort of change. They can be found in your schools; they can be your friends or neighbors or even your own family
Worse yet, they could be you! If you think you may be one, there is good news! It can be stopped. Yes, it is that easy. Realizing it is half the battle. All you have to
do is evaluate your process of thinking and open up to new ideas. Expand your horizons. Look for the positive in life. Stop trying to stop other people.
Once you have identified the "reality-stoppers" in your life, get away from them, ignore them. Don't let them pump their negative view of life into your head.
Later in life when you have accomplished your goals, you can go back and try to help them. Until you have a positive full rounded life, they won't listen to you.
Perhaps in time, they may come around and become curious about how you became so happy
But for now try to surround yourself with positive reality enhancing people who know there are many roads to success.
These are the two most important lessons I have ever learned in life:
1. Nobody is out to stop you but you!
Most people aren't really out to stop you. If you look closely; you will see these are usually ignorant people that are lost in their own problems and illusions. Ninety-five percent of the time these "reality-stoppers" are not out to stop you, it is just that they are jealous or angry or envious of you. Actually, you stop yourself from your goal and dreams.
However, if you run into a "reality-stopper" that is really out to stop you, avoid that person, change schools, change jobs, change friends. There is always a
way to slip around the person. Once you look at all the excuses you make in life about everything you want to do, you will find that no one is out to stop you but you.
Most excuses we have for not being happy and successful are manufactured in our own heads. We must stop and listen to our inner thoughts, write them down and see who's
out to stop whom. Which brings us to the second most important lesson.
2. "The Can't Syndrome." How many times a day do we say that we can't do something? I can't get that promotion, I can't go to college, I can't make an
A in English.
Every time I heard myself say that I "can't" do it, I would stop myself and ask who is saying that. It was a scary realization to face the fact that it was
me. However, the event taking place is automatic, and most people do not even realize it is going on in their subconscious minds.
I believe this is determined by a silent whisper or recording in the back of your mind when you are driving down the street, taking a shower, or watching television,
etc. . .
If you say, "I can't," your mind will not let your body try. If your body does not physically try then it is truly impossible, and it becomes a self
fulfilling prophesy (See Figure 1.)
"You can't do it" because you didn't try This applies to anything from making a friend, to asking directions, to getting in shape, to starting your own
business, to living your dreams!
After I saw that my reality was "not doing it," I stopped and realized that what I was doing was living in an illusion and not reality. So, what I learned to
do is catch the negative thought, become aware of it, and rethink it into a positive outcome. That outcome being "Yes, I can do it." (Or at least I will try)
Once you have completed the mental exercise, the battle is won. The act of trying brings the thought out of your head and converts it into reality. This means that you
would be living out the reality of it 100% of the time.
If you say that you can't do it, you're right, you won't do it. But if you at least try it won't matter if it was a success or a failure or right or wrong. It is living
the reality that counts.
If you live out "I can't" and you don't try you are not really living out reality. Reality is out in the real world. Pretending and not doing is guessing at
what would happen. When you guess at it, you are living out the illusion of it, which in turn means that your reality is an illusion.
When you conquer "The Can't" Syndrome" you will start to understand the power that comes from living the reality of all life's moments. To learn to
experience new things you feared in the past is MAGIC.
Several months passed by after the coughing incident, and I realized that I really needed to know how much time I had left to live. I had to stop living the illusion
and dealing with reality.
My new life had just begun and I didn’t want to die in the middle of it.
As I entered the hospital, my pulse started beating a mile a minute. The smell of sickness and death almost paralyzed
me. I marched right up to the registration nurse and told her, "Help, I think I'm dying." Then I signed in. I got my very own name wristband and was told to wait patiently for the on-duty doctor.
while I was waiting, I started evaluating my life. I thought, "If I did have cancer and died today, did I truly enjoy
and appreciate every moment of my life? If I had another chance could I have helped more people? Could I have accomplished more? Could I have been more successful? Could I have given more love to my family, friends, and
anyone I ever met?" I promised myself that if I got to live then I'd start enjoying my life and pursuing my dreams.
When my name was finally called I told them they had a total of 20 minutes to do what they had to do, and then I was leaving never to return.
I was escorted to a room, got undressed and then got my chest x-rayed. As I was waiting for my results, I started to
write my last Will and Testament. Oh boy, I was not ready to throw in the towel so soon. I already started to miss my family.
Well, when the doctor came to me with my test results, I broke out in a deep sweat. He told me that I was lucky. I had
a very bad lung infection that could be treated with medication.
I thought to myself, "YES! I was going to live." I was so happy that I actually whistled out of the hospital.
What a wake up call. From that day forward, nothing was the same. Every day, every minute seemed more valid. I finally started living my dreams.
Several years passed by as I worked and studied and experimented with this new knowledge. I wanted to tell everyone
but I had to prove that my theories worked. I can now say that understanding "The Can't Syndrome" has helped me live the reality of many situations that I would have only let pass in my mind.
Every time I tested a reality there were lessons to learn. Some of these lessons were hard lessons to accept, but I
needed the experience and knowledge to succeed. It's not success or failure that counts, it's whether you learn from the experience that ultimately counts.
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